can you make me look good?
“I’m not in the best shape of my life! Will you hide this and that? Can you photoshop 10 pounds off?!” is what I often hear and the simple answer is yes.
When it’s time for my family photos I bring out my best. My best double chin that is. Because nobody tells me otherwise! But, I will tell you! I do not photoshop pounds off, but I will make sure you look good from the start.
Most importantly though, you need to remember the reason you want me to photograph your family in the first place, which is to capture the love, the connections and the memories that will get passed on to your children and grandchildren which is priceless. Think about 10 or 20 years from now. Your kids won't care that you were 50 pounds overweight. They don't care now. They think you are beautiful and they love you just the way you are. They will really appreciate photos of their momma playing and laughing together with them. That's what matters. Twenty years from now… they WILL look for photos of you (because we all do it) so get in the photos please!
My husband hates doing family pictures.
“He double hates the fact that we actually pay to do this. Will you photoshop a smile on his face???”
Yup! I will put a happy face emoji over his grumpy face in every photo. Just kidding. Husbands are their own specie. It is not that he doesn't love you or your family enough. He'd just rather take a shower with ice cold water than take family photos. He knows how important these photos are for you and he knows that you want everything to be perfect. Let's be real... we get a wee teeny tiny super stress about it... I mean... trying to keep everyone clean for longer that 5 minutes is nearly impossible so of course we stress. Stress makes your husband go into fight-or-flight response, except he can’t do either because... he loves you. But, it's hard to look happy when you are stressed. So... that’s why he'd rather get a root canal than do family photos.
The good news is I am very aware of this and I know what works and what doesn’t work for dads. So wether your husband is super affectionate or not, super excited about photos or not, super grumpy or not… I got it. I will make the process painless and dad will look loving and connected.
Real responses from real dads: "What? It's over?" "We're done? That wasn't bad"
My kids are crazy!
“What if they act out?!”
I embrace their craziness. As a matter of fact, their craziness is the reason I do what I do.
They may not sit still and smile pretty, but that’s ok because that does not show their personalities anyway. I want to capture each of their crazy! This is what makes your family special. This is my inspiration. My job is to keep up with them and I happily take on that challenge! I have seen all kinds of crazies in the last 10 years and they all have ended up with beautiful photos. All of them.
Oh and don’t make our shoot sound serious. Tell them that you are gonna have a “family playdate” and that your friend with a camera was invited too.
what do we wear?
Say YES to: comfy clothes, comfy shoes or no shoes, pastel colors and light neutrals, add texture such as fur, ruffles, clothes with movement, accessories such as hats, scarfs, necklaces, bracelets and headbands.
Say NO to: graphic tees, large patterns, logos, red and orange tops, oversized clothes, matching outfits.
Pretend you are creating only one outfit for the whole family.